Who said you can’t do it?

I really have a problem with women who are easily convinced they are not good at something, without even trying this. Have you ever heard of something like this: “honey, you can’t drive”, “you are not good enough for this”, “you can’t dance, because you’re fat” etc.? Then someone is trying to keep you “down” just because they know you won’t try it.

WHY NOT TRY IT?

When I was 20, I started working as a radio DJ. Sure, all men said it’s not a woman’s job and I won’t make it. 10 years later I am still doing this, pretty well I might add. Same happened with taking Karate lessons and being a good karateka, starting web design and now owning a web design business and a over 30 site network. Sure, most people who dared comment said I won’t make it.

Before you renounce your dreams and hopes, why not do the best thing you can and TRY? There are some things I’d also have in mind:

Why does he/she say I can’t do it?

Maybe he/she is envious, maybe he/she doesn’t know what’s all about. Most people are very good with coming with solutions, especially when they have no idea about the problem. Do the people who try to keep you from doing something new really know you that better? Do they have experience in that area? Are they JUST JERKS?

What do I need to have in mind before starting doing it?

When it comes to driving a car, you need to take lessons and that license. When it comes to starting on a new sport regime, you should try see your doctor first and know you can exercise. Most of the time you’re healthy and there’s no reason not to try it. For a new business venture you need some money and to know that business. Get to reading, get to solving all the problems and then GO FOR IT!

Accept advice, don’t accept negativity.

When someone you know comes with constructive advice and ideas, take it into account, when they just try to tell you once again ‘it’s a lost cause’, just stop talking about it. You need REASONS to know why they think you won’t make it. Try to ask them about these reasons and see how many can actually tell you something real and not realize they don’t have any, just the fact they don’t want you to try. Their not wanting you to try is no reason, so mind your own business and again: DO IT!

And sometimes, it’s true .. you can’t do it.

From all the things I wanted in live some were accomplished and some not. I wanted to be: a teacher, karate instructor, web designer, I wanted to be able to drive a car like a “man” and also work as a radio DJ. I don’t teach (even if I have studied for this for 9 years), because I realized this is not something I’d do. I don’t like working in a class that much, so I just moved on. I won’t be a karate instructor ever, because of my health issues (bad back) and the fact I won’t be able to train as much as I’d need to become more proficient. It’s been a dark day, when I realized this, but now I know. Still, many other things I had in mind now are reality and I am GOOD in all these areas.

I am always happy I DID TRY to accomplish anything I had in mind. Sure, some of the things that were important to me won’t ever be real, but at least I did my best. I never took anyone’s advice that I won’t make it, I knew what I had to do and did it.

Instead of letting others run your life, why not KNOW what you want from it and GO FULL SPEED? Not succeeding is better than knowing you were never this strong to at least try.