Contraception is a very delicate subject for any woman. We leave aside the fact some religions speak against it, we just discuss now about the women who chose to use any birth control methods and the best attitude for this.
I am 30 right now, have been sexually active for more than 10 years (late starter, I know). Number of sexual contacts? Never counted them, still, a lot, normal for a person who’s been into steady relationships all this time. Number of abortions? ZERO!
There are many women who had the same “luck” and there are also many who were forced to think about a way to not give birth to the unwanted child. I have friends who still think ‘it’s not gonna happen to me’ and I know many who still get pregnant, even if they say they were careful.
When I started growing up, even if I didn’t have a boy friend, I read ALL I COULD about this subject. I knew most of the contraception methods and what and when could go wrong. And I was always scared there are huge chances of something to go wrong.
Normally a pesimistic mindset is not something I’d like to have, but in this case I always thought I don’t have any luck, so why take a chance? If I just felt like the condom broke, I took the “second day pill”, just in case. After this love style proved to be too adventurous for me, I went on the pill and took it religiously. It’s working like a charm.
I knew a woman who’s same age as I am and I taught her (she was 26 back then) about the pill, the “second day pill” if something goes wrong and other contraceptives. She has a kid (7 years old) and had 6 abortions in just few years. She was shocked to find so much information, a bit too late if you ask me. All her life she enjoyed the good sex without thinking about the consequences. When she got pregnant the last time and wanted to keep the baby (she was married now and the little boy she had wanted a little sibling) she miscarried. She’ll never be able to give birth again from complications after all these abortions.
My advice for any woman is simple: never think “it won’t happen to me”, because it might happen. When I was 20, getting pregnant would be the end of the world. I had a not so well paid job and also was in college and knew it would be a tad difficult to also take care of the baby. I was so scared about this, I took all precautions I could and I don’t regret it. I still enjoy making love and know I am safe. I had the worst case scenario in my mind and was careful for it to not happen.
There is no place for recklessness or “luck” in this matter. If pregnancy happens you have to deal with a lot of possible issues and life changing decisions. An abortion is a traumatic experience and, if you can prevent it, why not try? Why just have fun and leave it all to chance?
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